I’m Talia and I used to believe that love meant doing everything so no one else had to.
I kept the house clean, the fridge full, the baby fed, the teenager (barely) on time, and my husband from collapsing under his construction boots.
I thought that was enough.
A tired woman leaning against a kitchen counter | Source: Midjourney
But then my son laughed at me with his friends and I realized that I’d built a life where being needed had somehow become being taken for granted.
I have two sons.
Eli is 15, full of that bladed teenage energy. He’s moody, distracted, obsessed with his phone and his hair… but deep down, he’s still my boy.
Or at least, he used to be. Lately, he barely looks up when I talk. It’s all grunts, sarcasm and long sighs. If I’m lucky, a “Thanks” muttered under his breath.
A smiling teenage boy | Source: Midjourney
Then there’s Noah.
He’s six months old and full of chaos. He wakes up at 2 A.M. for feeds, cuddles and reasons only known to babies. Sometimes I rock him in the dark and wonder if I’m raising another person who’ll one day look at me like I’m just part of the furniture.
My husband, Rick, works long hours in construction. He’s tired. He’s worn out. He comes home demanding meals and foot massages. He’s gotten too comfortable.
“I bring home the bacon,” he says almost daily, like it’s a motto. “You just keep it warm, Talia.”
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He always says it with a smirk, like we’re in on the joke.
But I don’t laugh anymore.
At first, I’d chuckle, play along, thinking that it was harmless. A silly phrase. A man being a man. But words have weight when they’re constantly repeated. And jokes, especially the kind that sound like echoes… start to burrow under your skin.
Now, every time Rick says it, something inside me pulls tighter.
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Eli hears it.
He absorbs it.
And lately, he’s taken to parroting it back with that teenage smugness only fifteen-year-old boys can muster. Half sarcasm, half certainty, like he knows exactly how the world works already.
“You don’t work, Mom,” he’d say. “You just clean. That’s all. And cook, I guess.”
“It must be nice to nap with the baby while Dad’s out busting his back.”
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“Why are you complaining that you’re tired, Mom? Isn’t this what women are supposed to do?”
Each line continued to hit me like a dish slipping from the counter, sharp, loud, and completely unnecessary.
And what do I do? I stand there, elbow-deep in spit-up, or up to my wrists in a sink full of greasy pans, and wonder how I became the easiest person in the house to mock.
I truly have no idea when my life became a punchline.
Dishes stacked on a kitchen sink | Source: Midjourney
But I know what it feels like. It feels like being background noise in the life you built from scratch.
Last Thursday, Eli had two of his friends over after school. I’d just finished feeding Noah and was changing him on a blanket spread across the living room rug. His little legs kicked at the air while I tried to fold a mountain of laundry one-handed.
In the kitchen, I could hear the scrape of stools and the rustle of snack wrappers. Those boys were busy tearing through the snacks I’d laid out earlier without a second thought.
Snacks on a kitchen counter | Source: Midjourney
I wasn’t listening, not really. I was too tired. My ears tuned them out like background noise, the way you do with traffic or the hum of the fridge.
But then I caught it… the sharp, careless laughter stemming from teenage boys with disregard for consequences and basic politeness.
“Dude, your mom’s always doing chores or like… kitchen things. Or stuff with the baby.”
A teenage boy standing in a kitchen | Source: Midjourney
“Yeah, Eli,” another said. “It’s like her whole personality is Swiffer.”
“At least your dad actually works. How else would you afford new games for the console?”
The words landed like slaps. I paused mid-fold, frozen. Noah babbled beside me, blissfully unaware.
And then Eli, my son. My firstborn. His voice, casual and amused said something that made my stomach turn.
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“She’s just living her dream, guys. Some women like being maids and home cooks.”
Their laughter was instant. It was loud and clean and thoughtless, like the sound of something breaking. Something precious.
I didn’t move.
A laughing teenager | Source: Midjourney
Noah’s dirty onesie hung limp in my hands. I felt the heat crawl up my neck, settle in my ears, my cheeks, my chest. I wanted to scream. To throw the laundry basket across the room, let the socks and spit-up cloths rain down in protest. I wanted to call out every boy in that kitchen.
But I didn’t.
Because yelling wouldn’t teach Eli what he needed to learn.
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So I stood up. I walked into the kitchen. Smiled so hard that my cheeks actually hurt. I handed them another jar of chocolate chip cookies.
“Don’t worry, boys,” I said, voice calm, saccharine even. “One day you’ll learn what real work looks like.”
Then I turned and walked back to the couch. I sat down and stared at the pile of laundry in front of me. The onesie still slung over my arm. The quiet roaring in my ears.
A jar of chocolate chip cookies | Source: Midjourney
That was the moment I made the decision.
Not out of rage. But out of something colder…
clarity.
What Rick and Eli didn’t know, what no one knew, was that for the past eight months, I’d been building something of my own.
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It started in whispers, really. Moments carved out of chaos. I’d lay Noah down for his nap and instead of collapsing on the couch like Eli thought, or scrolling mindlessly on my phone like I used to, I opened my laptop.
Quietly. Carefully. Like I was sneaking out of the life everyone thought I should be grateful for.
I found freelance gigs, tiny ones at first, translating short stories and blog posts for small websites. It wasn’t much. $20 here, $50 dollars there. It wasn’t glamorous.
But it was something.
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I taught myself new tools, clicked through tutorials with tired eyes. I read grammar guides at midnight, edited clunky prose while Noah slept on my chest. I learned to work with one hand, to research while heating bottles, to switch between baby talk and business emails without blinking.
It wasn’t easy. My back ached. My eyes burned. And still… I did it.
Because it was mine.
Because it didn’t belong to Rick. Or to Eli. Or to the version of me they thought they knew.
To be continued!
